פוליגון סוגי היחסים

מה ההבדל בין סווינגרים לפוליאמורים ? בין בוגדים ליחסים פתוחים ? האם מבחינה מוסרית יש לי בעיה אמיתית להיפגש עם נשואים לאחרים ומדוע ? האם אני מוכן / מוכנה שבן או בת הזוג "שלי" יחגגו לבד? האם תפיסת העולם שלי לגבי יחסים מוגדרת ? לכל המעוניין שאלון מעמיק קצת ארוך אבל מרתק שמציב גם באופן גרפי את מקומי על פוליגון היחסים http://www.okcupid.com/tests/the-polygon-test התשובות כאן ... נשמח לשמוע שיתופים ... The Poly-gon Test Results http://www.okcupid.com/tests/the-polygon-test Freak: You like sex. Do I really need to tell you that? Closed Relationship While you believe in loving multiple people, you also believe in commitment. Your ideal situation would be living in a closed household or community (triad, quad, hinge... you should familiarize yourself with these terms), where any member can be involved with any other member, but no outside play is allowed. Asexual Hey, it's cool. Some people are into romance, some sex, some both, and some neither. You are probably very comfortable being alone or very skeptical of the claims of what relationships can bring. Maybe you've been burned before or maybe you just have more important things in your life. That's okay, and don't let anyone tell you differently. Cheater You want love but you value sex... sometimes, you get your priorities confused... and you have had more than one relationship end over your philandering. If you want to stop the trail of tears you leave behind, you'll have to spend some time alone thinking about trust. Do not just jump into another relationship that will fizzle out after a while. I might recommend checking out polyamory, but not until your communication skills have improved. Free Love Remember the hippies? When it comes to sex, you're just like them. You believe love is the highest form, too powerful for any two people to hold for too long. You love everyone (as often as possible) and you are very honest about how commitments make you feel like a square. Domino Your relationships start quickly and intensely, but a little choppy water and you're ready to jump ship and find someone else. Since you don't like being alone, one relationship often begins just as the previous ends. Playa You're not very trustworthy, but you never claimed to be. Your relationships begin over drinks and matchbook phone numbers and end with a trip out to pick up the morning newspaper. Your deceptions are more likely to be errors of omission than bald-faced lies, but nonetheless you have little business having relationships, whether monogamous OR polyamorous. Rolling Stone You're a drifter. You can't deny yourself sex, but you have a lot of ambivalence and possibly guilt about love. The important thing is that you never pretend to be anything else. If someone chooses to plan on you, it says more about them than you. There have been countless movies, TV shows, and fantasies about your psyche, so be careful that your partners don't fool themselves into thinking they can change you. Ethical Slut Hard-core polies have read the book and found it lacking, but the title describes you to a tee. You need sex, you need love, and you don't want limits on either. You can love several people, romantically and/or sexually, and you can do it with honor and honesty. You are among the greatest communicators in the poly world. Klutz You try. I know you do. But you just can't seem to behave. You want that one true love who will keep you at home, but you simultaneously fear hurting that person and wonder if the right one even exists. You are constantly in a relationship, because you usually start a new one before the previous has technically ended. Two-Timer Like polyamory without the honesty, right? Of course that's like war without the death. You are focused, and in a sense, you are committed. It's just telling your partners about your needs that trips you up. I just hope you don't have two families in separate states. Open Relationship You focus on loving one person and having casual sex on the side. Other romantic relationships may develop, but one person is always primary. The simplest and most common form of polyamory. Can also be in the form of an "Open Marriage". Village The broadest of all polies, you like to have and explore a large poly community. No kind of relationship is mandatory or off limits, though neither is it likely to be permanent. Breeder Relationships are a means to an end for you. You are probably less interested in sex or romance than you are in having children. Focus on finding a partner who shares those values and you could make a bright future, but don't be surprised if your more emotional partners call you cold as they're walking out the door. Passive Polyamory You can go a long time without sex, but you are drawn to highly sexual people. Fortunately for them, you are completely comfortable sharing! All that matters is that your lover comes home to you every night. Roommate For you, love is more about friendship, safety, and comfort than fiery passion. You can go it alone for a while, but you prefer having someone around--and the sex isn't bad either. You are very selective of your partners, and won't abide by big mistakes, but you may have trouble dealing with the little challenges that come along when things don't feel as great as they should. Polyfidelity Like multiple marriages. You are devoted to your loves, there just happen to be two or three of them who are not involved with one another (though they may be involved with others). Soulmate You're a true catch among monogamists because you know what you want and what you don't, you're flexible and wise, and you won't waste anyone else's time trying something that isn't going to work. If you haven't found "the one" yet, you will. Conditional Polyamory You believe in polyamory and oppose jealousy... but you are also madly in love with your partner and can't bear to be apart. What's an ethical non-monogamist to do? You invite a third into your bedroom, you attend play parties and sex conferences together, you explore exhibitionism or other activities involving outsiders... All that matters is that you do it together. Friend with Benefits You're not necessarily avoiding relationships, you're just not looking for them either right now. You need sex and aren't looking for love, but you do prefer being intimate with people you know and can actually talk to. Some of your best friends are people you've seen naked. Tagalong You don't mind sex and love, but they're not huge priorities either. You mostly see relationships as a means to an end. Actually, you probably don't think about relationships much at all, you just know that you want one. Playmate Relationships might be for you some day, but right now you're just having fun playing the field. You are more interested in exploring sex than relationships, but you're not out to hurt anybody's feelings along the way. Have you ever thought about doing porn? Cluster Polyamory You're generally open to any configuration of polyamory, but you stick to a relatively small network of friends and lean more toward loving friendships than casual fucking. Fuck Buddy You like to fuck! When you find someone who fucks well, you like to fuck a lot! As long as they don't get any ideas that this is going to lead to a relationship or anything. Swinger You commit to one relationship for love and allow sex on the side in very specific circumstances. Often, these circumstances involve controlled swinger parties or "swapping" with another couple, but the most common rule is that both partners step out simultaneously. Although they are among the most high-profile of polyamorists, swingers don't cross paths much with other polyamors, and there is some tension between the communities. However, if you are not one of the stereotypical swingers (sneering older men with open shirts and gold chains, hot but self-conscious younger women with bleached hair and too much make-up), I would encourage you to extend a friendly hand to your nearest polies and help bridge the gap. Don't Ask, Don't Tell You want one devoted partnership and some fucking on the side. You just don't want to talk about it much. This kind of relationship distinguishes itself from regular ol' cheating because the couple actually talks about it at least once beforehand and agrees that, "You can do what you want, I just don't want to know about it." You do not get romantically involved with anyone but your partner, who is always first priority, and you keep your side-stepping secret from most. You might be in politics. נשמח לשמוע שיתופים זורבה ובאדולינה